The great favor debate

On the day we got engaged, I was too busy thinking about the being married part to think about the getting married part. I didn't even think about wedding planning until I told my family and they started asking questions about what I wanted to do about this and that aspect of the wedding.

And of course, over the months following, many people shared their opinions about different aspects, like what the bridesmaids should wear (and who they should be), when and where to get married, what our first dance should be, and so on and so on. The thing I have heard the most about, by far, is the favors.

Now favors are something I like, but literally could take them or leave them when I go to a wedding. So naturally it amazed me how strong some people's opinions about wedding favors are. Those opinions run the gamut: they should be permanent, they should be useful and disposable, they should be easy, we should turn the basement into a favor-making assembly line, they should be personalized, they should be eco-friendly, they should be put on the dinner tables, they should be passed out in a basket, they should be on a table by the exit...you get the idea. I was considering not having them, but that was quickly deemed out of the question.

So we decided on something that incorporates many of these aspects, and I hope everyone will enjoy them. If not, I'll ask them to do me a favor and keep it to themselves

In my dreams

Lately, I've been having some colorful dreams. Some strange, some funny, some slightly prophetic.

• A couple weeks ago, I had 3 different dreams on the same night about wedding dresses:

1. In the first one, I went to a Bible study the morning of the wedding, then around noon decided I better start getting ready. I went upstairs to my sister's room, where they were all in there wearing matching dresses that I had never seen. They said, "our dresses weren't ready, so we bought these instead. Your dress isn't ready either." To which I replied, "I don't care what I wear! I just need to get married!" [This dream ended up being slightly prophetic, since the bridesmaid dresses were ordered in the wrong length and the correct ones will not be ready until January]
2. In the second one, my dress wasn't ready, and I said, "Wait, wasn't it just November yesterday?" [which it actually was]
3. In the third one, my dress was delivered to one of the hospital clinics where I work. The nurses helped me try it on, over my clothes. The sheer top part went down to my waist. I optimistically told them, "maybe if I try it on without my clothes on underneath, it will fit right."

• Three nights ago, my older sister was having twins and was excitedly showing off her 2 inch "baby bump."
• Two nights ago, my fiance and I were honeymooning at my parents' house, but my family would not leave us alone. I had special sheets to put on the bed, but I couldn't do it with all the interruptions

Getting ready

As I appoach the scariest, yet most exciting thing I've ever attempted, marriage, I thought I'd start a blog to record all the pre-wedding happenings. Then after that, of course, there will be the joys and struggles of matrimony and the adventures of FUTURE BABY/IES, God willing. So welcome, and I hope I don't put you to sleep!
JB